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Remember as a teen and the name calling? Yes?
It went something a bit like this;
Girl #1: “Did you hear about Katie, kissing 2 guys last night? What a slut!”
Girl #2: “Yeah, dirty!”
Believe it or not, Katie isn’t a slut and this example is simply girls being mean, yes mean girls!
It goes on into adulthood too, you can sleep with 1 different man, every month, have numerous 1 night stands or have a different partner every few months. Someone will turn around and call you a slut, whore, hoe, slag…..the list is endless. But is there anything wrong with this? In my personal opinion, no.
As long as you practice safe sex and ensure you’re not putting yourself in danger, then there isn’t anything to worry about. You’re out to enjoy yourself and have a good time, there will always be that cat caller, lurking, it’s human nature.
I think it boils down to people not having an understanding of the situation. Why put someone else down, for something that you personally wouldn’t do? Then there are the bullies, you know the ones who go out of their way to cause trouble. It’s nothing to do with you, it’s their issue.
I like sex, in-fact I love it! If I go out on a first date with a man and we’re mutually attracted to each other and it feels good, then I’m riding him like a cowgirl to a wild stallion!
If he doesn’t call the next day or buggers off, so be it. I do not feel ashamed of participating in an adult play session. If he wants to see me again, it’s a bonus.
I see shaming on social medias on a daily basis. Escorts, Call Girls, Cam Girls and a-like, being targeted by trolls. These men and women are earning a living and it’s an honest living, it’s a service to Jo Public and if they want to do their job, willing, then why bother them?
I admire those who work in the sex trade, it may be a quick buck or two but it’s a pay-packet and keeps them afloat.
What’s the point in this post? I’m here to say it’s OK to work in the sex trade, it’s OK to have a 1 night stand, it’s OK to have sex. If you’re practicing safely, then what’s the issue?
I personally feel that sex workers should have rights, like in Germany. German escorts have to have regular STD tests/smears, if that was the case in the UK, it may lead to a safer environment for sex workers, after all, you can never be too safe!
Recently, I came across an article about ‘Slut Shaming’ from a male’s perspective and I feel it is spot on, give it a read here (click).
I hate it when an assault case comes up in the news, then someone has to comment “well, if she dresses like that, she’s asked for it!”
In short, no she didn’t ask for it, she wasn’t wearing a sign saying “rape me”. Why blame the victim for something that she/he has no control over?
How many times a day, how many days or months, will it take for shaming to emotionally effect someone? Calling someone a Slut once a day for weeks, can take it’s toll, it could lead to depression. As a race, we need to be more compassionate towards others, not put them down for something that is natural to us.
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